101 little things that probably won't change the world: For the love of real women....

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

For the love of real women....

I just wanted to pause and send some love to the "famous" men (Black and otherwise) who are proud to show off their beautiful, natural, Black women.

Please note I am NOT hating on any beautiful bi-racial, "exotic", long haired, light skindeded types... but it's always refreshing to me to see a successful man marry a brown/dark-skinned black woman. Sorry if that's offensive to anyone...

I also think this really hit home for me (again) because I just finished reading a little snippet about Terrell Owens who is known for dating a "certain type" and feeling that he "shouldn't be faulted for that" I caught a snippet of his reality show last week where he was complaining because his homegirl was wearing a head scarf to bed... and he would never date anyone who had to wear a head scarf... Ugh just STFU with your sexy ass...LOL...

Moving on...

Anywhoo... just saw this pic on YBF of John B and his wife.

I love it!

And my eternal favorite couple- Anthony Hamilton and his stunning wife Tarsha

I love them so much I can't even stand it.....

I swear if Anthony leaves her for a Japarazilia-rican model/actress I will slit my wrists

LOL

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Lia RoseAugust 12, 2009 at 10:56 AM
I get it, I'm mixed but I get it. For me the biggest thing is the hair. I'm light skinned but have a huge mass of black very curly (we're talking smaller than a pencil in width), sometimes nappy, and very clearly 'ethnic' hair. I hate weave, have never chemically straightened my hair, and said goodbye to my flatiron for good last year. I am always glad to see black beauty (real black beauty) celebrated in relationships because it is so rarely celebrated in the media. The problem is that there are so few celebrities who aren't white that celebrate and highlight what makes them unique. Kinky hair gets straightened, brown skin is lightened, full lips are toned down, prominent noses are 'fixed'. Healthy dreadlocks beat out plastic braids any day. Biracial actresses (all three of them...ha) are constantly pressured to emphasize their whiteness. What a shame. Realizing that I was never supposed to have straight hair and celebrating the kinky choas has been one of the most freeing experiences of my life.
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NanaAugust 12, 2009 at 1:10 PM
Hey Lia, thanks for the comment! I saw your posting on "The Kitchn" and started exploring your blog. I love it... I'm a rampant comment-er (is that word) so expect some comments real soon :-)

I completely agree with everything you said. Regardless if it's natural hair (unless it hangs in perfect corkscrews!), brown skin, a flat nose... there are all things that people (read: men) tend to dismiss as inferior... especially as they gain more an more success... it's like, big house? Check! Nice car? Check! "Exotic" wife? Check!

I am not against the idea of having a beautiful wife as a "status symbol"... that's reality... it's just unfortunate and saddening that dark skinned women are often dismissed by successful brothers who think that, in their quest for a "status wife", there's always something better than a beautiful, brown/dark skinned black woman. Oh well.... at this point, that's life but it definitely makes me appreciate images of black love like the ones above. :-)
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Nana's 101 Goals List...

Updated: August 11, 2009

Start Date: September 1, 2008

End Date: May 30, 2011

Goals currently in Process goals will be in blue italics

Completed goals will be marked with a ~~strikethrough~~

Fun things for me

~~1.) Adopt a pug~~

2.) Go White Water Rafting

3.) Take a serious wine class(Sept 2010)

4.) Acquire >2 songs per month for 6 months (4/6)

5.) Take 1 picture every day for 6 months (0/180)

6.) Celebrate the end of the list with a dinner out/party with friends

7.) Take a cake decorating class

8.) Take a cooking class

9.) Take a hot air balloon ride(Sept 2010)

10.) Make 100 new recipes (55/100)

11.) Get a professional massage

12.) Take a class at Babes in Toyland (Aug 2010)

13.) Try 50 foods or types of cuisine I haven't tried (14/50)

14.) Watch the sun rise on the beach

15.) Go skiing

16.) Go to at least 1 Broadway show per year (2/2)

17.) Take 5 dance classes (not at the gym) (0/5)

18.) Set up an indoor herb garden and maintain for 2 months (0/2)

19.) Get a facial

20.) Watch all the movies that have won Best Picture since I’ve been alive. (16/25)

Doing nice things for folks….

21.) Send 1 letter to my sponsored child

22.) Give 10 "just because" gifts (0/10)

23.) Do a strip-tease for my boyfriend

24.) Give my parents a really nice anniversary gift

~~25.) Motivate someone else to do their own 101~~

26.) Buy dinner for a homeless person

~~27.) Walk Dogs at B.A.R.C 10 times (0/10)~~

Doing nice things for Nana…

28.) Meditate every day for 1 month (0/30)

29.) Read the Bible

30.) Go without a computer or TV for 48 hours 1x per month for 3 months (0/3)

31.) Read 6 non-fiction books (0/6)

32.) Get up at 5:30 am every day for 3 weeks (0/3)

33.) Read the newspaper or at least CNN.com 5 days a week for 1 month (0/20)

34.) Blog on my 101 90% of the days (133/901)

36.) Create a new 101 list

37.) Visit 10 museum/art exhibits or lectures (2/10)

38.) Go to a spiritual/meditation retreat

39.) Be on time or early for everything for a month (0/30)

40.) Don’t drink alcohol for 60 days (0/60)

41.) Find a civic organization to join and attend 5 meetings (0/5)

42.) Wear jewelry, other than earrings at least 3 days a week for a month (0/12)

Travel

43.) Take a trip to see the Foliage in Vermont

44.) Take 1 weekend trip per quarter (2/8)

45.) Visit 3 states I've never been to before (0/3)

46.) Take 1 trip out of the country

Health/Fitness

47.) Take multivitamins every day for 3 months (0/90)

48.) Take medication every day for 3 months (0/90)

49.) Get my ear waxed cleaned

50.) Drink 1.5 liters of water per day for 2 months (0/60)

51.) Reduce body fat to 20%

52.) Do 15 minutes of abs 3 times a week (outside of a class) for 1 month (0/12)

53.) right/left splits

54.) Center splits

55.) Go to the gym 500 times (0/400) *UPDATED*

56.) Complete 50 military push-ups

57.) Learn how to make healthy bread and make 1 per month for 4 months (0/4)

58.) Complete a 10 day cleanse/fast

59.) Get a complete physical

60.) Go the gynecologist and dentist once per year (1/4)

Random Things I've been putting off

~~61.) Make the earring holder I've been putting off~~

62.) Read 5 books on my shelf that I haven't yet read (0/5)

63.) Buy a water filter

64.) Figure out 2 things that scare me shitless and do them (0/2)

65.) Create my wardrobe database

Career

66.) Have conversations/meetings with people at the DOH not working in HIV (0/3)

67.) Go to at 4 networking events and collect 5 business cards at each event

68.) Meet 3 people working in pharma (research and eval) (0/3)

69.) Get a promotion in title and salary in or outside of the dept of health

70.) Take 2 classes in field (0/2)

71.) Make a business plan for my personal chef business

72.) Attend APHA conference

73.) Present at 1 conference

Finance

74.) Save $15,000 for emergency fund

75.) Start retirement planning/Open retirement account

76.) Put $5 in savings for each completed task and $10 for every uncompleted one.

77.) Set a budget and stick to it for 2 months (0/2)

78.) Don't eat out for 1 month

79.) Apply for housing lotteries

80.) Do 400 "no spend" days (1/400) *UPDATED*

81.) Invest money in 2 types of investments (0/2)

Grooming/Body/Face

82.) Wax my own armpits and legs at least 1 time

~~83.) Get a professional bikini wax (Brazilian)~~

84.) Use the foot thing in the shower every day for 2 month (0/60)

~~85.) Follow a face and body regimen every day for a month (0/31)~~

86.) Get a fish pedicure

Cleaning/Household

35.) Go to bed with all clothing hung and no clothing on bed, floor, etc for 45 days (0/45)

87.) Leave no dishes in the sink overnight for 1 month (0/30)

88.) Make bed every day for 1 month (0/30)

89.) Dust my apartment 2x a month for 3 months (0/6)

Learning New Things

~~90.) Buy a digital piano (casio privia or Yamaha YPG)~~

91.) Have a long conversation with my dad about his childhood/life/family

92.) Learn to play "How come you don't call me anymore" on the piano

93.) Learn 5 Christmas Carols (0/5)

94.) Learn how to play clair de lune

95.) Play, sing, record song and post on youtube

96.) Hem 2 pairs of pants (0/2)

97.) Take in the waist of 1 pair of pants/skirt

Keeping up with people

98.) Send Christmas cards to at least 20 people for 2 Christmases (0/2)

99.) Remember all immediate family birthdays and send cards for an entire year

100.) Call parents, brothers and sisters 1x per week for 6 months (0/24)

101.) Surprise my parents with a random trip to see them

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For the love of real women....

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